Draft the honest version first, then shape it into something easier to hear.
The analyzer helps you slow down, spot escalation risk, and choose a calmer rewrite before the message leaves your hands. BeeHeard Free and Plus both include shared monthly softens for connected couples.
Guided message composer
Write the raw version first. The AI buzz check will coach tone, clarity, and escalation risk quickly. Generate calmer rewrites only if you want them next.
Draft first, then review the buzz check and choose what to send.
The buzz check uses your primary emotion as context. Keep the message specific, skip “always/never” language, and respond to feelings before solving the issue.
Run the buzz check when your draft says what you mean, even if it is still rough.
You will get a fast read on heat, blame risk, clarity, and the best next move.
When ___ happened, I felt ___. What I need right now is ___. Can we talk about ___?
If you are flooded, save the draft first. You can still be honest without sending it at peak intensity.